[tmtranscripts] Welmek, June 27, 2002

[Donna DIngillo]

WELMEK – RECOURSE IN YOUR LIFE
JUNE 27, 2002

Welmek:  Good Evening.  This is your friend and teacher, Welmek.  I thank
you for coming this evening to continue our discussion on the topic of 
recourse in your life.  

Tonight will be the final installment in this series.  And I wish to use
the idea that we have been working with in a slightly altered fashion. 
The term recourse has another meaning in your vocabulary.  It means
having access to something when you do not have an immediate response.  I
wish to apply this meaning now to the word recourse - the topic of
re-coursing your life.  We have been discussing the action of the Thought
Adjuster – that inner spirit as the pilot in your life – as the means by
which you begin to carve your life direction on another course.  And it
is good to use this metaphor in your own internal guidance as a means to
identify and come to know more intimately the workings of your marvelous
inner guide.  

But the idea which I wish to convey tonight is this: What if, within your
feeling mind, you do go down the wrong path and you find that you have
made a mistake.  What recourse do you have at this time?   And it is in
this vein I would like to direct our lesson for this evening.  For even
though the divine guide within is eternally and infinitely perfect, your
awareness to recognize its leading is limited and, as you know, is
subject to interpretation.  So I ask you to take this idea of what
recourse do you have now in life when you make a mistake into the
stillness and ask your spirit, “What do I do when mistakes occur or
obstacles occur in life?  What recourse do I have?”  

Spend a few moment in addressing your spirit with this question, and take
a moment to listen for the reflected answer, and then you may share your
responses with me when you feel you have ascertained a response. 
(Pause.)

Student:  Welmek, this is J.  It seems that that moment of perception of
a mistake; you have an enormous choice of rejection or acceptance.  And
even this has to be learned because sometimes we are – our culture and
our family – raised in a certain kind of institutional rejections of the
truth.  But if you can accept the mistake – let it become part of you,
then in a sense, it is a blessing, for you will have learned something;
you will have grown.  

Welmek:  That is an excellent response!  For in the growth you begin to
discern that there is another answer, and you do not judge yourself as a
failure, only that you are adding to your life’s experiences.  And so,
what would you say is the recourse that you have in this situation, as
you perceive it?  

Student:  The very recourse itself depends on, I think a kind of a
tension, almost based on - it’s a matter of character – a kind of
equanimity of soul, a kind of attitude of experimentation.  So no matter
what happens, as long as you learn from it, like an experiment that goes
wrong in chemistry, but it teaches you things you couldn’t have
anticipated.  You’re nose-to-nose with something new.  And so your
recourse is to be able, somehow, to not just react, but to act with this
new thing and be creative in that moment.  This is the recourse you’re
are creating, or co-creating the future.  

Welmek:  And would you say then, that you look at making mistakes in the
same light that you would have say, ten or fifteen years ago?  

Student:  No, this ability is something that is a function of wisdom and
experience.  It’s something that is also growing.  By the way, in this
situation, it is the Thought Adjuster that somehow provided the contrast
by which you can perceive the whole dimension of whether it’s a mistake
or not.  That whole sense of it being a mistake, and then dealing with
it, to me, seems a function of that inner compass.  And what you do with
that is a function of your will.

Welmek:  Would you not also say that perhaps the Thought Adjuster shows
you that it is not really a mistake per se, but an opportunity to learn
something, as you said; that you couldn’t have anticipated that gives you
a expanded sense of who you are, what your range of expression is, and
how that manifests another aspect of the God within you?  Are you finding
this also to be of your experience?  

Student:  Yes, I think this is, in the deepest sense, the love of the
Adjuster, because there’s nothing so precious; there’s no gift that we
need more.

Welmek:  And so then, would you say that, from what you have described to
me, that there are truly no mistakes, but more often than not, just new
ways to overcome challenges, make certain choices, and thereby continue
your growth, and self expression?

Student:  Well, very much so!  A mistake is, in one way, just an
emotional reaction, a perception of a mistake, is just an emotional
reaction to a challenge.  

Welmek:  That is a very wise comment. Thank you. 

Student:  Thank you, Welmek.

Student:  I’m feeling very weak and I feel like I’m fading.  I have a
certified question to ask.  One, that I manifest shingles, ADD, and
(undiscernible).  Two, what can I do about it?  And three, what is the
teaching?  What is the  (U)?

Welmek:  Human affliction is not designed to be a teaching mechanism as
much as it represents an imbalance in the physical system of some genetic
pattern that has been carried within you for some time, and it is finding
an expression because of the body’s inability to withstand a healthy
environment that would limit its range of expressing itself.  

I would caution you to look beyond the current condition of your body,
even though it does trouble you and limit your physical movement.  But
you are more than a physical mechanism.  You are a free-will child of
God, of Spirit, and as such, your spiritual nature is the better part of
who you are.  You have access to this nature, even though your body may
be in conflict.  You have access to the capacity to free yourself from
this condition when the conditions in the mind are aligned with the
overall spiritual circuitry that exists within your operating system.  

It is important now to begin to step outside the boundaries of your
physical system and identify yourself more as a child of God, who has
access to all the prerogatives that, that relationship entails.  Good
health, unrestricted feelings of love, support, guidance and nurturing
are all available to you.  The Father in Heaven does not wish you to be
ill.  And in certainty does not afflict His human children with various
illnesses to teach them lessons.  However, in your affliction, should you
grow your faith to the degree you know you will be made well and whole,
you will overcome this limitation and find that which you seek.  

I will pause now, and ask if you have a question or need further
clarification.  

Student:  I’ll have to spend more time in stillness, and also to focus on
my spiritual life with more frequency and with more intensity.  That
should be my major focus.  Is that the truth?

Welmek:  That is one aspect of the truth.  The greater truth is to begin
to see yourself more in the light as a child of God.  That will give you
the incentive to spend time in the stillness.  For when you know and feel
that you are a beloved child of an infinitely wise, loving, tender,
merciful and compassionate Heavenly Parent, the more you will wish to
spend time in stillness in furthering your perception as a child of
spirit.  It is very important now for you to attach your self-awareness
to the idea of being in this parent/child relationship: you, with the
Heavenly Father, and resting in that awareness that everything you need
will come from this relationship.  But this does take time, and I know
that you are striving for this.  And I encourage you, when you are in the
stillness, to imagine yourself in some form or fashion as being a small
child, and crying out – much as an infant would – for the love, for the
presence of the Parent to come in and hold you to His bosom, and let
yourself rest.  In time you will begin to sense the supporting structure
of Divine Love that is now enfolding and upholding you even now as we
speak.  It is incumbent upon you, from the human end, to spend time in
this relationship, and asking for that connection to be made.  And it is
helpful in human experience, if you can feel love, and ask God to amplify
that feeling within you.  Does this help? 

Student:  How much time should I spend each day in stillness and focusing
on my relationship to God as a child?  

Welmek:  As much time as you wish.  There is no limit.  Some days you
will feel more needy and it will seem natural to spend a great deal of
time in the stillness, in feeling this love connection.  Other times you
will feel stronger and may only wish to spend a few minutes in stillness.
 This is entirely your prerogative, but it is important to spend some
time each day in letting God love you.  Letting God bestow and instill
that most wonderful and nurturing of all feelings: the love of a parent
for a child. 

Student:  I find it difficult to stay in the stillness.  My mind is very
busy.  I have great difficulty in quieting my mind.  Do you have any
suggestions as to how I can do that?  

Welmek:  I would suggest that you spend some time in meditative reading. 
Read a paragraph in a book that is particularly inspirational to you. 
Then, after you have read this smaller section, stop reading for a
moment, and ask your spirit to magnify what you have read, and to help
you incorporate what you have read into your being.  It is as if you are
chewing on the words and letting them digest within you.  This might help
you to divert the thoughts in your mind from random thinking to the
higher level of spiritual truth.  

Spend time in prayer, particularly for others.  This is also one way to
train your mind to be in the Spirit.  Spend time in acknowledging that
which God has given you – life itself and the things for which you are
thankful.  These are some of the things that will divert and refocus your
mind into that higher level of consciousness, where your spirit is more
able to inlay what it wishes you to know as part of your spiritual
education.  When you have done this, for a time, relax, breathe deeply,
focus on your breathing for several minutes, and when your mind wanders,
return to your breath.  And then when you are so relaxed, invite the
presence of the Father into your heart and say, “Father I am your child
and I wish to feel your presence now.  I am ready.  I open the door to
Your love, and ask You to flood that into my being.”  And when you do
this, the Father will respond.  Does this help?  (Thank you.)  Does this
answer satisfy you, or do you have other questions?  

Student:  I think that is a good answer.  And I am very clear that I
absolutely and more intensely and with more focus must persist, so I
become more receptive during the time of stillness.  I like the idea of
seeing myself as a child of God.  It is very helpful.  I think that has
to be my emphasis from here on out.  

Welmek:  It is who you are and it is your destiny.  And the more you
identify with this, the more it will become real. And the more naturally
you will seek to be in relationship with the Father, and your time of
stillness will become more satisfying and meaningful to you.  (Thank
you.)

Be patient, and enjoy where you are being led.  It is a time of great
discovery.  There is no hurry.  Relax, rest in God, and let Him do His
work within your being.  I honor the spirit within you. And know that you
will find much joy as you continue down this path.  

Student:  Welmek, I have an answer to the question you posed to the
group.  It may be of interest, and it may open a door for a lesson about,
when we make mistakes.  And the thought that occurred to me was that a
mistake is a value-judgement we make when a situation doesn’t turn out
the way we would like it to, then we call it a mistake.  And then, when
we realize we’ve made a mistake, we’ve already learned a lesson.  And it
seems to me the most important element that’s left is either to determine
the determination not to make that kind of mistake again, or, and
patience to be able to gracefully withstand the pain of feeling – of
feeling that we’ve made a mistake.  And, of course, if we can correct it,
and go back and fix it, that’s of course, the most ideal opportunity. 
But often times, we just have to move on, and with determination, not to
repeat the kind of error that led to an outcome that we didn’t desire,
from a situation.  Is this accurate?

Welmek:  There are many subtleties in your response, and I perceive that
you have gained much insight and wisdom into your own perceived mistakes.
 I use the word mistakes in the earlier portion of this lesson as a term
that you are all very familiar with, for humans have a great tendency to
look at their life as being full of mistakes.  And we do not judge this
as such.  There is a harsh judgement that humans place on themselves and
one another when you do things that make you uncomfortable, and cause you
to experience unpleasant consequences.  But I would say that the
consequences are a byproduct of an expectation that did not come to be –
that what you had anticipated was something other than what you
experienced, and thereby causing the tension perceived as a mistake.  

But I would say from the perspective of the universe, that there are only
lessons and learning and experiencing.  You see, when you try a new
experience, and you do not attach any particular outcome or expectation
upon it then, would it not be more enjoyable to find what life has to
offer?  There are times when you will be taken down a wrong path due to
your own limited thinking.  And the circumstances on your world are such
that you will find judgment, even condemnation, when things do not go as
planned.  And so it is very natural that you would judge yourself and one
another harshly in these circumstances. 

But I say to all of you tonight, that if you were to live your lives and
make decisions in consort with you inner spirits, and then do not worry
about what the outcome will be, and to move ahead in faith. Then any
experience that would come your way would add to your life’s insight and
wisdom, and enlarged perspective of how the universe works,  and to see
new patterns of God emerging through you.  

And my dear friend, C, I think this is what you were intimating, in your
response.

Student: Yes, I feel very blessed by your words that make me realize that
we can feel blessed by all of our experiences in the big perspective, in
the long run.  

Welmek:  I assure you, my friend, there will come a time when you look
upon this veil of tears as one of your best experiences in life.

Human life on this planet does not have to be beset with the misery and
the isolation that you all so have experienced in some form in your
lives.  Keep your faith strong.  And you do this by spending time with
the Father each day, and aligning your willingness to be led in harmony
with that pilot that is so steadfastly and lovingly guiding you into the
light, into the truth, into the beauty, and into the goodness.  (Thank
you.)  Thank you.  

Student:  Yes Welmek, this is D, and in dwelling on the idea of mistake,
initially I didn’t have any response, but after hearing everyone speak,
one of the thoughts that came to mind was that in making a mistake, it
was a poor choice, at that time.  But at the same time, it showed me who
I was not, that allowed me to show me who I am, at this time.  And
because of some poor choices that I have made in the past – choices that
were based on fear or feeling lack or limitation, or feeling inadequate
or unworthy, or having expectation, or feeling that I needed something –
or wanted something, but didn’t really need or want.  That’s allowed me
to be more of who I am, of being closer in communion with spirit, and has
made me grow and evolve.  So that when I do make a decision out of false
perception, I realize that’s not the truth, that’s not who I am, and I
correct it, or go into stillness.  

And also how I react to my poor decision, influences whether it
dissipates or carries on.  Do I react angrily or feel unworthy?  Do I
linger in the anxiety or the stress, or do I see the mistake and say,
I’ll move on from there?  Obviously there are different degrees of
mistakes or poor choices.  Some that linger, like financial mistakes, and
some that you can correct right away.  But, all in all, a mistake, or
poor choice shows me who I am not, that allows me to show me who I really
am.  

Welmek:  And so then, my friend (tape ends).. in what you have shared
with me, is that your recourse in making the mistake is to see who you
are.  You have recourse of the vision of yourself as a child of God.  

Student:  Yes – true!  And what happens too, I noticed, you tolerate and
are more patient with other people’s so called, mistakes, or poor
decisions because you know what they are going through.  

Welmek:  So you see, you always have recourse to something new and
better, and something that teaches you a new and deeper spiritual value
that, as you incorporate into your being, allows you to manifest more of
the spiritual fruits that you find so desirable – that deepening
expression of tolerance and patience and compassion and understanding. 
This is what you have recourse to and all of your so-called mistakes or
challenges are able to be re-patterned and aligned in this way.  

Recourse is not just a new direction that you move your life toward, it
is also your ability to have access to those attributes of the Father
Himself that deepen your ability to become Godlike.  Everything the
Father has – in personality – is accessible to you:  His goodness, His
compassion, His infinite love.  You all have recourse to this.  So there
is nothing that you have experienced that has been negative or hurtful
that cannot be corrected.  And so I encourage you to think about this
idea: What recourse do you have in life when things do not always go as
planned?

Things, people, circumstances will not always adapt themselves to your
preferences, your will, your ideas of how things should workout.  And so
when you feel that life has hit the skids, as you say, spend time in
asking your spirit: What recourse do I need, what recourse do I have
access to?  And you will always find your spirit giving you an answer,
and helping you find a resolution to all those circumstances and
situations in life; to give you the victory over misery, over despair,
and defeat. And in this, your recourse to joy and eternity.  Are there
any other comments or questions before we conclude?  

Student:  Yes Welmek, as you know, my daughter is going through, yet
again, another challenging situation, especially with her mother.  And
I’m always trying to impress upon her, she’s been through a lot of
challenges the past two years, and I’ve always been there by her side,
urging her on, seeing the essence of her spirit, because she is a
beautiful child of God.  And she has a lot to offer in this world.  Yet
she is experiencing much pain from her mother; and you know what the
relationship is between her and her mother.  What I ask how can I teach
my daughter - or maybe even teach all of us - how to pray?  How can we
speak to God?  How can I teach her to pray; and despite what her mother
says to her, that there is love there?

Welmek:  You daughter will find the words in her heart to speak the words
of spiritual help that she needs.  You can encourage her in this fashion
to look at the tension between her and her mother, and to ask God to
soften that attitude and their tone in speaking one to the other.  

She, in and of herself, can also do a few things, and to recognize how it
is that she shows respect for her mother, and in wanting to keep the
relationship healthy. When she is in conflict with her mother, it would
be helpful if she could take a moment to back away, take a deep breath
and pray, “Father I am having a problem with my earthly mother, and I ask
for You now to give me the words to speak to her that will soften the
tension that exists between both of us."  

This is a somewhat advanced idea, but you have planted many seeds in her,
and now it is time to help her to bear good fruit.  If she is more
spiritually receptive than her mother, then why could she not be the one
to spiritually uplift the situation by stepping back and praying during
the tension?  You may need to reinforce this idea within her several
times before it creates that awareness in her to stop and actually step
back and pray.  But if you encourage her to do this, she will find this a
helpful technique, and both she and her mother will greatly benefit. 
Does this help?

Student:  Yes, very much so.  I have been thinking along those lines
because – two things, my daughter is in the process of re-coursing her
life.  She has had many great lessons or challenges, and she has grown a
lot in her sixteen years of life on this planet.  And secondly, I feel
that it is possible that she is the one who has to show her mother how to
love, because that’s been talked about before in a previous meeting.  Her
mother has a hard time loving or expressing love, so maybe that’s one
thing my daughter can give to her mother – it’s the idea and ability to
love.

Welmek:  When there is conflict in their communication, neither one will
feel the love that each has for the other, and so someone must break the
tension and elevate it to another level.  And as you have more of the ear
of your daughter than you have of her mother, would it not be wise for
you to encourage her to continue and to try this many times over.  (Yes,
I will do that.  Thank you.)  You are welcome.  

Student:  This is D again.  I came here thinking I was going to be quiet,
but now I have all these questions.  And this one has been kind of
bandying about in my mind since C brought up the question, a few lessons
ago about what we experience when we pass away – when we pass over.  And
you said we experience eternal joy, love – all that.  And then I said,
can we experience it here on earth – all that, and you said very few can.
 And then my question is, why are we here on this earth then?  Why do we
not just end our lives, and go right to God, and experience eternal joy
and love and life that it is so hard to experience on this planet?  Why
are we even here?  And I know it’s a large question, and that you might
want to answer this at another time.  But with all the challenges that we
face, you know, if there’s eternal joy and love when we pass over, why
not just end it and go onward?  Or are there deeper ramifications, if we
do that?   

Welmek:  Do not perceive in that answer that there was not effort, and
what you might consider to be work, for the universe is patterned to be a
place of experience.  It is the attitude that you bring to life that
makes the difference.  And you can experience joy and peace now, by
simply adapting an attitude of wanting to experience all of the good
things life has to offer, as opposed to wallowing in all of the misery of
the world.  It is this simple.  

You are a child of divine destiny.  Remember this: first and foremost,
all the Father is – light, life, love – is yours and you know it.  And
when you connect with that and feel that, does that not change your
attitude?  (Of course!  It makes me want to live!)  I say to you my
friend, as much as you love your daughter – and you have been with her
before she was born – and when she was born, you knew that she would cry
and experience discomfort. But you knew that, that would be transitory,
and that she would find love and joy and happiness.  And so, all of the
unpleasant experiences that she went through – have they all not given
her the capacity to be in life, and to learn new things?  And all of the
good things have added to her life’s enjoyment, and she has had to make
choices, and suffered the ramifications of those choices, and to learn
maturity, and to learn lessons, and to overcome obstacles and challenges.
And have you not told her yourself, it is your attitude that makes life
more enjoyable, that separates those who go through life in misery, and
those who go through life with optimism and good cheer?  And if you know,
as a parent, that your daughter is learning things and coming to a
greater understanding of herself, then why would the Father, who loves
you more than you love your child, and knows you more intimately than you
know your child, wish for anything less than for what you have already
seen for your daughter?  

You are all creatures; we are all beings of experience and growth.  And
this is part of the Divine Plan – our divine destiny – to grow into
God-awareness and God-likeness.  And it is a joy.  And it is a privilege.
 And does not each triumph you have taste doubly sweet when you know you
have overcome something difficult?  Does that not make you feel full of
pride and self-confidence?  And our Father, who loves us so much, would
never wish to deprive us of any sense of self-accomplishment.  

And so we are given a great universe to work and play and explore and
enjoy, and many new opportunities to meet people and see new places, and
learn new facts, and to comprehend new meanings, and to incorporate new
values into our beings.  What a gift!  What an adventure!  And why would
our God, who loves us more than we will ever know, wish us to deny
anything so wonderful?  Do you see?  (Yes, very much!)  

Student:  Thank you, Welmek, for bringing us inspiration, wisdom, love,
clarity, and freedom. 

Welmek:  My dear, dear friends, you all have been effected deeply by the
conditions on this planet, but this is not life; it is not living. 
Come…be with us in spirit!  Lift yourself out of this misery, and come
and be our playmates in this wonderful universe that has been created for
us to love and enjoy and to grow.  It is all yours for the asking and for
the taking.  How much do you want to have?  There is no limit, there is
only abundance and prosperity and friendship and love.  And this is your
destiny.  Good evening.