[tmtranscripts] Welmek Transcripts

[russ gustafson]

WELMEK - SEPTEMBER 27, 1998

LIVING TO LOVE


Welmek:  Let us continue with the purpose of live: to learn, to live and
to love.  We shall discuss "Living to Love."  Think for a moment, what
does that mean - to live to love?  How has it helped you in your life to
discover the meaning of this and how might your friend discover it for
him or herself?  I will give you a few moments to gather your thoughts
and we will continue.

 (NOTE:  After all the students have responded, Welmek summarizes the
comments and adds a lesson.)

Love is the dominant feeling in the universe.  Unfortunately, while it is
natural, while it does flow unconditionally from the source-from God,
most humans must experiment, must learn through experience to find and
give love.  Let us think about what is love.  Your text defines it well,
"Love is the desire to do good to others," and we could add "and to
yourself."  In order to find love, you must search, you must experience,
you must experiment.  Perhaps as a child you received love from your
parents or from friends.  As you grow older you seek love from your
brothers and sisters, you find moments and opportunities of love from
them.  But to truly know love in the very deepest sense, you must seek
the real source of love.  This would be the search to find the love with.
 When you tap that eternal source of love, you know without question what
love is because it is now something you can feel throughout your whole
being.  Just as your physical mechanism senses through your eyes and
ears, your soul has a way of knowing and it is through its own sensing it
feels.  And when that soul feels love, it knows the truly reality of what
it has felt.  It is an inner way of knowing.  If you have not experienced
it, it cannot be proven.  But all of you here know whereof I speak.

What does it mean to do good to others?  What does it mean to love God,
to love yourself, and to love others?  When you experience what you call
your romantic love, is it not your desire, as you think about this person
much of your day, to find ways to please them?  You do little things for
them, you exchange sexual favors, and all of the other ways you have in
your culture show this love.  This is something you think about-how can I
please this person?  So how is it that you can please God?  If God is the
source of all things and each of us are mere mortals, we can give God
what He has given us.  But you cannot love someone whom you do not know. 
So you must take that time to learn about God -- to learn to know God. 
By taking time each day you develop a relationship with God.  You can
worship God, and when you feel God's love, it would be a natural
outpouring of love from God.

What does it mean to do good to yourself?  Well, to find that source of
love within is the most worthwhile thing you can do for yourself.  Why do
so many not do it?  Because they allow the barriers of anger, lack of
forgiving themselves or others, laziness, complacency,
self-absorption….all of these are barriers.  The love of God is all
around, it is humans who put up these barriers.  You must break through
these barriers.  It is easy, one need only to ask and you will receive. 
But you must ask and you must experience and you must try to seek God's
love.  That is the greatest thing you can do, because until you find that
love within yourself, you will struggle to be able to love others.

You may find one or a few that you can love, but to love all…to see all
as your brothers and sisters, this will be a greater effort, this will
require finding that love within.  And what can you do for others?  Love
is the greatest service one can give.  In the universe, that is your
constant purpose, that is your constant desire.  How can you find a way
to do good for them?  What is it that they need?  Do they need help with
some physical task?  Do they need someone to listen to them?  Do they
need someone to play with them?  Look at the person and ask what is it
that they need.  Sometimes they are not sure themselves.  You must look
deeply within them, you must as you say read between the lines, you must
intuit what it is they need.  For sometimes they know exactly what they
need at that moment and it may be nothing more than help with a
particular task.  On your world there is a wealth of opportunity to
serve…to love.

At my level, we love, but because everyone is progressing, it is not
always easy to discern how you can help, for after all they all know how
to go within and find the greatest help of all.  But we do find ways, we
are still growing, we are still learning, and we still have needs.  So we
find ways in those opportunities to help each other.  We come here to
this planet and to the other planets of rebellion and we seek to help
you.  We come here out of love, out of desire to do good for you.  It is
our way of serving, it is our way of loving, it is our way of deepening
our experience of love.

Every individual offers you an opportunity to learn; what can you learn
from it?  Maybe you can learn more truth, maybe you can see more beauty
and help you to feel more love.  But everyone has something to offer you.
 If you spend each day first seeking this well of love, let it flow
through you, let it fill you.  Then, as you go through your day you feel
that love with you and you look for opportunities to share that love, to
serve others, to find a way to help them.  Then you are living the way of
the universe.  For the way of the universe is to live each day to love.

Personal question answered regarding not feeling motivated to perform
service and feeling guilty about it.  Welmek's response:

And so to do you best right now and to look at any problem, you need to
know its past and its destiny.  Do you glimpse the destiny that I have
portrayed to you of the universe dominated by love?  And within yourself,
can you not sense what that might be like?  And in your past, were there
moments when you did not feel love at all, and perhaps not even glimpse
what we now talk about?  And so, you are in process, are you not? 
Somewhere between your past and what you see as the glorious ideal that
you now begin to see as you walk this path.  Therefore, each day is a
wonderful experience to learn, to learn to live in this love more.  Some
days you will feel that you have accomplished more, others days you will
feel that you have not accomplished much.  But is this not the process of
learning?  Do not judge yourself.  Simply ask yourself, am I trying…am I
trying to understand…am I trying to live to love more than I did a year
ago or ten years ago?  If your answer is "yes" then you are doing what
you are supposed to be doing…then you are following God's way…that is the
path of life.

I do not mean to suggest to you that you are at a point where you would
radiate the love that the Master would radiate.  I understand…I am not at
this point either. But I understand that is my goal and it is something
to strive for.  Does your book not tell you it is not so important what
you are as what you are striving to become?  Do not be hard on yourself. 
There will come a time as you grow in this understanding of yourself and
as you feel more love for yourself, that you will naturally have the
desire to share this with others.  But you must understand that others do
not always respond.  Were there not even those that the Master could not
reach and closed themselves off?  You can only do your best, you can only
try.  The difference is whether during your day you still feel connected
to this source of love.  If you still feel this connection, then you can
seek inner guidance as to what might be best for this person or you can
simply allow that love to flow to through you.  Imagine this other person
surrounded in the bright light of love.  You can do this without ever
saying anything to this person.  Throughout your day when you are busy
and are absorbed in your tasks, when there are break moments, when there
are times between tasks, reconnect.  The more you can retain this
consciousness throughout the day, the more peace you will find, the more
serenely you will get through your day, the less stress you will feel at
the end of the day.  This is the goal, this is the process, it is not
easy to achieve.  It is particularly not easy to achieve on your world in
the jobs you work with the stresses you face.  

Personal question about not being perfect and feeling unworthy of
receiving God's love.  Welmek's response: 

It is a matter of time and it is a matter of perspective.  You are given
this concept of being perfect.  What does it mean to be perfect?  What
would it take to do everything right?  So, you see your expectation is
somewhat unrealistic isn't it?  My sister, let me say to you, you will
never, never know everything.  You will never be perfect in all ways. 
You will become perfected in one way, and that way will be to always seek
the will of God, the way of God.  Your motivation is what becomes
perfected.  That is the only thing in us humans that becomes perfected. 
Now, let me ask you, do you have some control over this idea of seeking
to find the divine way, seeking to follow the divine path, and to find
this love and peace?  Is it a choice you can make to pursue this?  And
so, in your own way you are becoming perfected because you are making
choices and you are choosing this path to follow.  And so you are on the
only path that is available to you.   In no other way can you be perfect.
 You must eliminate this thinking from your mind.  Following God's way is
the only way you in which you can achieve perfection.  It does not mean
that you can know everything.

Take this into stillness with you, take this concept when you are still,
bring up this concept of perfection in your mind's eye and at that time
ask the Father to clearly help you understand this idea, this concept of
perfection.  And while it is there in your mind's eye, allow the thoughts
to enter to help you see perfection in a new way.  Let me ask you, have
you ever experienced any one who is perfect in any way on your world? 
And so, you expect perfection from those who cannot be perfect in ways in
which you wish them to be perfect.  So how can you win?  How can they
win?  It comes from the fact that you have a concept of perfection.

But until you understand perfection from a spiritual level, it causes
great confusion, because when you look at the level of the material
world, then you think that other humans should be perfect in the way they
act or think, in knowing all there is to know about something.  You see,
you apply this concept of perfection at levels that it cannot manifest.  
But when you apply perfection to the spiritual level, then there is a
way, there is an opportunity for it to be, and that is for you to pursue
this path in doing God's will.  It does not mean that in every situation
you will always know what is right, but it means that you will pause and
you will seek the right way to relate to others.

This is also part of this concept that your text talks about exchanging
your mind for the mind of the Master.  What does that mean, what did the
Master do?  He said, "Father, not my will, but yours be done."  He sought
God's will in each of the things he did.  That does not mean that you
will always have a clear or perfect answer or know the perfect way.  It
only means that your motivation to seek the best way is real and genuine.
 And gradually it will become perfected in the sense that it is what you
will always seek.

Response to a comment by a student:  Yes, you see it is the transference,
it is the "born again."  All humans seek love.  When they do not know to
seek it from within, they must seek it from without.  They seek it
through acceptance from their parents, brothers and sisters, their loved
ones, their spouses.  But you see, all of these people are human and
fickle and imperfect.  And no matter how much you do, how much you
attempt to please them, it may never be enough.  There may be some other
reason they withhold their love from you and you cannot find that reason,
so you constantly seek to find why.  This inner innate desire to find
love was given to you intentionally, because you must find love in your
life.  But the mystery is that you cannot find it only in other people,
you must find it in God.  You find this unconditionally loving parent who
says to you "I love you, you are my child.  I only ask that you share
your love with me.  I don't expect you to be perfect.  I expect you to
make mistakes.  I accept you and all of your imperfections and I accept
you as long as we share this relationship, this love."

So now, when you find this source of love, then you know you have it-it
is permanent, it is ever lasting, eternal.  That is your anchor, your
foundation of love that you build upon from within.  When you have this,
it is your foundation.  The fickleness of the love and acceptance from
others, perhaps frustrating and disappointing at times, but also
wonderful and enjoyable, is part of the world of change.  And no matter
how hard you try, no matter how much you do for someone, tomorrow they
might say "that is not enough, I want more."  So you might never be what
they want you to be.  So you must let go of that to some degree.  It does
not mean that you should not try to please others, to be a good person,
to be loved by them, to seek a relationship of love, it does not mean
that you should not try to do well or please your boss.  But it means
there are limits and not to seek your only source of acceptance and love
from people.

You will set up unrealistic expectations, you will set up an expectation
of yourself whenever you do not get the love that you seek, that somehow
you are failing, somehow you are not yet perfect yet.  That will create
feelings of unworthiness and insecurity within you.  And you will not
love yourself if that is the way you see yourself.  Your self can not be
created from the images of others.  It must be created from the true
image of your real self, the God within.  When you see that real self,
all the rest is shadow and change.  But that is the dilemma.  God has
given you a concept of perfection, a concept of love and an innate desire
to seek and achieve these things.  Where do you seek them?  Who is the
measure of how successful you have been?  You must transfer that
acceptance from without to within, and when you do that you have been
born again.  You have begun to seek the real you, your real self.

You are still in the physical world and you will still want and need a
certain degree of love and satisfaction and success.  These things are
natural, you should continue to strive to achieve them. But you must
lessen your expectation, lessen or change or transform this concept of
perfection from without to within.  And as you do that, and I know you
are doing that, you will find that what can be almost obsessive for many
people will lessen, then you will live your life more in balance.  When
you are dominated by the images and perceptions of the outer world, you
are out of balance.  When you are dominated by living only in the
spiritual inner life and do not deal with the real world and your
brothers and sisters, experiencing them and with them and through them,
you are out of balance.  It is not wise to retire to monastery for all of
your life.  You need experience and interaction with others.  So you must
find balance between the material and the spiritual, between you inner
and outer lives.  And this is part of the secret, the mystery of leaning
to walk day in balance.  Of learning to live, learning to love, living to
learn and living to love.  

Do you understand what I say?  Let me add one more thing.  Most humans
feel this sense of unworthiness because they are not perfect-perfect in
their physical appearance, perfect in their intellectual acuity, they are
not perfect in the way the world wants them or they think the world wants
them to be perfect.  And as you make this transition, you will see that
that is not a realistic expectation on the part of others for your worth
and value to be measured.  Therefore, your worth and value should not be
measured by others, but should be measured  from your sense of awareness
of who you really are, your real self.  But at the same time as you
lessen this expectation of measuring yourself by the judgements of
others, you must, in turn, not look for perfection in others.  Is that
not only fair?  You will not find other humans who are perfect, so do not
expect that from others.  

Comment from student regarding learning about spiritual growth from
interacting with others.  Welmek's response:  

You must bring these up during your stillness.  You must look at them. 
It may take several times, but each time you will chip away, you will
polish rough spots, and you will wipe away the clouds of confusion.  And
the window of reality that you begin to see which includes your
expectations of others will become clearer.  As you do that, your
relationships with all that you meet will improve.  

Student's comment about needing interactions with others in order to
learn to become more loving.  Welmek's response:

Yes, look at your text…what is the universe but one vast school--world
after world, new experience after new experience.  Some of your brothers
and sister, when they discover their budding spirituality, think that all
they need do is turn to the God within and it will answer every question
that there is.  But that is not true.  This fragment of God that indwells
you is your pilot, your guide.  It will guide you through experience into
understandings you must obtain.  If it were not so, then you would not
need to do anything, to experience anything.  You would only have to turn
within and say, "what is the answer"  But, the answer comes through the
sorting, and the analysis, and the evaluation, and the building blocks of
experience.  

In the universe we are all teachers and learners.  At one moment you
teach, the next moment you learn.  I teach you, but I learn from you
because you add to my experience.  Let us all seek together the only way
in which we will find perfection, and that is to simply share our inner
life with God, to do the will of God, to find the way of God.  And this
simply means that in each situation seek to find the love, the love that
is the desire to do good to others--what is in their best interest, how
you can serve them.  In serving them you love them, in loving them you
serve them.  Good day my friends.  
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